The wife would have far more success in encouraging her husband to quit and offering support. An addict is going to distrust just about everyone in a Christian setting. His current friends aren't going to help and many may even become counterproductive. This leaves you, the wife, as his only true hope.
Someone coming out of addiction needs someone to be accountable too. It's best that it's his wife. She's the one stuck in the mess with him either way. There needs to be honest communication between the addicted and the person they are accountable too. There will be no trust and honest communication if the addict says, "I failed today," only to be met with an attack. This doesn't mean the wife has to accept the behavior but she should understand this will be a process.
The addict should still attend support groups. If there is a breakdown at the support group, the addict can fall back to his wife for support and does not have to fall back to his addiction.
Marriage vows are becoming a joke in these current times. I even heard Mexico is thinking of passing temporary marriages into law. We have this in the United States already. They are in the form of Hollywood Marriages and just plain living together. Couples are not willing to go through the hard times anymore. Vows are treated as "in the good times and the bad" unless this includes porn addiction or the fact I just get tired of you.
A wife who can take the hard journey to porn recovery with her husband will be rewarded with a better marriage and husband. How many times have we seen trying times bring couples closer together? This moment in time, when you are dealing with porn addiction, can be the straw that breaks the camel's back or the glue that binds a couple together?
Will you have what it takes to be the wife your husband needs you to be?
