Monday, August 20, 2012

What to Do When You Fail - Day 15

I looked my stats today and I say the search term "overcoming porn the day you fail." I can imagine the person who typed this into Google was feeling pretty low. I've been there many times before. It can be pretty devastating. Most of the time, it conjures thoughts like, "Why do I even try?"

It's like everything else in life. The difficult things rarely get accomplished on the first try. Even when it came to walking, we had to make many attempts and we fell down many times. Very few children ever just go from crawling to running in one try. It's part of life. It takes time to reprogram your brain.

The problem with most adults is they give up to easily. What if the first time we tried to walk was our last time? We stand up. We go to walk and we fall down. Then we decide; that's it, we aren't every going to try walking again. Sounds silly doesn't it? Of course, you are going to try again. It is the same with quitting porn. When you get up, start all over again.

What if you are only free like me for two weeks? I feel better and have a better outlook on life. Isn't two weeks better than no weeks? If I fail, shouldn't I try for 3 weeks next time? Failure is certain in life but it doesn't have to be permanent.

I have faith that, if we keep trying, one time we will make a decision that will stick. This next time can be this time for you. This time is the time for me.